In the past couple of years I’ve learned to live my life like 4 year old Ebonee. This meant learning to stop caring about what other people thought about me and my decisions. When I cared about what other people thought, I realized I wasn’t making myself happy. I’m in control of my happiness at all times. When we look for validation from others, we put ourselves in jeopardy of unhappiness, which could ultimately lead to depression.
My friends always tell me, “Ebonee you are so strong,” and I just laugh. If being strong means not caring about how others perceive me, then baby I’m strong AF lol. The decisions I’ve made the past couple years of my life were all based on the idea that I just want to be happy. People remain in H O R R I B L E ass relationships, friendships, careers and etc.. because they’re afraid of being judged. Look…. people are going to judge you REGARDLESS. ~Newsflash~ Everyone will have an opinion about any decision you make 🙂 Sooooooooooo… If that’s the case, always make the decision that’s best for you.
When I decided to file for a divorce, I didn’t care what other people would say. Yes, I had a one year marriage. Yes, I posted him all over my social media, he was my man, I could do that. Yes, my dad wasted thousands of dollars on our bomb ass wedding. Yes, there were people who said it wouldn’t last. Yes, there were people that wanted me to keep trying. But at the end of the day, I had to do what made me happy and having a piece of mind was all I cared about. Oh and guess what.. Those same people that had opinions are still sitting miserable and afraid of what the next miserable person will think.
Ya’ll think I don’t know my page has been screenshotted multiple times and placed in group chats of people that say they care about me? Then you have those people that say they don’t care about me, but somehow my life is the topic of their conversation.
The point that I am trying to make is that.. There will always be someone that is going to judge you. Since that is true, DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY! Periodt! lol
Question:: Are you genuinely happy with your life right now or are you living a lie because you’re afraid of what others would think? Comment anonymously below.