Tell me when…..

When’s the last time you’ve done something that made you happy? Whether it was purchasing something you desired, traveling a place you’ve always wanted, or chilling in the house all day doing nothing, because that’s what you wanted to do? If you haven’t done anything you wanted to do….why not?


Often we don’t do things that makes us happy purely based on what other people may think or how they may feel. There are so many things I’ve wanted to do but because someone else may have frowned upon it, I declined. In life, we tend to put others feelings before our own and let’s just be honest, it’s the dumbest damn mistake we could make. It’s like when they tell you on the plane to put on your oxygen mask before assisting someone else, most people will say something along the lines of no, I’m going to help my child first, my parents first, or my grand parents. Again…why are we putting someone else before ourselves.


Think about this.. The college you chose, was that the college you truly wanted to go to, or did your family have influence over that decision? That sorority or fraternity you chose,was that your own decision or did you decide to just follow your family tradition with fears of letting them down. That man or woman you’re dating or married to…Is there someone else you see your life with, but you just can’t bare hurting them or letting down family members or hell, even staying in it for the kids? Let’s not forget the career you chose! Did you really want to be a doctor or was being a professional basketball player just not realistic enough for your family?


When all of these people in your life are long gone and you are still walking the earth, living the life they pushed you to live….what will you do since you no longer have anyone else to “live” for?


I say all of that to say this, “WE ONLY GET ONE F****** LIFE”. Live your life for you. You have to make the choices you want and do the things that make you happy. My ex used to tell me all the time that he wanted to go skydiving. I would look at him like he was crazy and would say stuff like that’s dumb or make close minded ass remarks like “That’s white people shit.” Once we broke up, I saw him about 6 months later and he was so excited for me to see a video, and I’m looking at the TV like what the hell could this be. He turned the TV on and it was a video of him sky diving. I was SHITTY ya’ll lmao! When I say this man looked like he had the best time of his life, I literally started crying. He looked at me like girl, why are you are you crying? I just kept saying I’m sorry because instead of me understanding that sky diving was what he wanted, I pushed my ideas of what happiness was to me, onto him, making him think that what he wanted was dumb. I NEVER want to be THAT person again.

Please do what makes you happy. Do what you want to. There will be people that look down on you, but I guarantee their quality of life won’t be anywhere near as remarkable as yours.

-Optimistically Me